Since posting on this subject earlier this week I have been made aware of a wider dialogue about that has been taking place on blogs over the last couple of months. Below are some links to what others have written.
What your pastor tells his wife about you by Meagan Hill, a PCA pastor’s wife.
“The reality is, the church is something altogether different than a doctor’s office. And your relationship with your pastor is not your relationship with a therapist.”
How much does a pastor share with his wife in regard to confidential matters? by my friend, Brian Croft, Baptist pastor and director of Practical Shepherding.
“The most important reality to remember in finding this balance is that she is your wife, not your fellow pastor. Include her for her benefit and the benefit of others, but she is not called, nor required to carry the same burdens we are.”
What pastors shouldn’t tell their wives and a follow-up (and clarifying) post, Of office and person by R. Scott Clark, professor of church history and historical theology at Westminster Seminary, California.
“A pastor may tell his wife what he would tell other members of the congregation but no more.”
Privilege and Confidentiality by Randy Booth, Presbyterian pastor and founder of Covenant Media Foundation.
“The idea the we may never talk about another person, under any circumstances is a false and unbiblical notion. We may not gossip about or slander another person, but we may discuss that person and matters pertaining to them when we are genuinely seeking to obtain the truth in order to bring about a just and righteous resolution to a problem.”